Guilt Trips

The damn bitch has lost her mind! For about 2 weeks now, we have been planning a trip to Louisiana for the boys football game... a championship of sorts. The team has put their blood, sweat, and tears into this seasons game. It was a tough year on them, not because they lost most of the games, but because we felt the games were being played unfairly by the league in general. I dont really understand football so much, but I try none the less.


Anyways, back to what I was saying. {Oh, yea- the damn bitch has lost her mind! } She was notified a week ago to start making plans, and to get things set in place should she (Ursula) decides that she wants to go- which means, get a babysitter lined up, transportation, accommodations, etc. Just like everything else, she decides to make assumptions that she can just dump D5 onto whoever happens to be home (like her mom or sister) without first talking to them. She also assumed she would be able to ride with us, and that we'd foot her entire trip. First of all.... I'd like to say its because pigs will fly first before I ride in a 6 hour car drive with her- but really, there were already plans to drive other players and parents down with us-- which was why J told her to get her plans set in place.


D day has arrived, and we leave tomorrow. Not only does she not have anyone available to take care of D5 for her (because she didnt bother talking to anyone first).... she decided to put a guilt trip on SD1. {Heres a little backstory on this. You see, a couple days ago, I had asked Ursula's sister if she knew anything about this trip, and if she had bothered talking to her or her mom about it. Naturally, she had no idea- and told me that none of them are available bc they already have plans}

So today- Ursula throws a fit about how we dont have room in the car for D5, and how everyone acts like shes an inconvenience when we all have plans. Hello?! I dont recall giving birth to this child, nor do I recall her being our's along with everyone else's responsibility!

Knowing what she was about to pull, I suggested that J call Ursula's other sister, who was going to be watching SD1 and SD2 for the weekend. She agreed to watch D5 as well after hearing all the bs thats been going on- as she agreed that the guilt should not be put on the girls at all. This was not satisfying enough for Urusla, so shes does what she does best... throws a freaking fit in the middle of our house saying how shes just going to drive her car (which does not work btw) and risk it with not only D5, but SS3 and SS4 too.

I dont know why shes always trying to make everything about her all the time... why dont you just read the following text message exchange between Ursula and SD1 (which was done on my cell phone...hahha). Stupid- doesnt she know better! ha!!

SD1: You better be playing. this is SD1

Ursula: I am not. Its not fair to D5. She deserves better.

SD1: Where is she gonna go. she deserves better than what? I will take casre of her at (aunt's house).

Ursula: the minute people have something to do, she is an inconvenience. None of you were ever treated that way. And never was leaving one of ya'll behind an option.

SD1: well, youre the one thats her mom. its not our fault if we cant always do your job. Where is she going?

Ursula: U are right. I am not the mom I was w/ ya'll to D5. I may send her to (someone in Mexico). We will visit her in the summer.

SD1: not trying to be rude but hell no. D5 isnt going anywhere. What happened to family comes first. Just because people get busy doesnt mean they have to give their baby away. Serious, who do you think is going to take care of her out there.

Ursula: There is no room in our lives for her just like there is no room for her in the car

SD1: She aint going no where. Im taking her to (aunt's house) and stop saying theres no room for her. There is. I dont care about whos car she doesnt fit in, shes my baby..she is not a freaking dog.

Ursula: that is something taht nobyd out here will ever have to worry about again. All I know is that its a fight with everybody throwing her off on somebody else when they have their own plans. And she was the last person thought of. Otherwise, she would have room in the car. And your dad wouldnt be screaming for (Godmother) to take care. Thats sad.

SD1: he said that cause the godmother thing. Its going to be worst for her in mexico. Nobody has the patience for the way she cats. She is gonna get hurt. How come you were so quick to quit your job when you were gonna "teach" me and SD2, but I havent heard you say that for D5.

Ursula: bcuz you 4 will always have your dad and me. And D5 only has me, so I have to work, and be able to take care of her one day. Your grandparents are sick, and they plan on leaving to Mexico soon.

SD1: Where are you and (aunt) going to live?

Ursula: Like your dad say, we'll have to move down there with them.

SD1: You say ppl only wanna do things cuando les conviene pues tu estas igual si la mandas. y do you want me and SD2 to accept concequences for our actions when you dont.

Ursula: come outside.

I am guessing at this point, she raced over to pick up SD1 because she was being CALLED OUT!!

I just dont understand her logic... why is it always everyone else's fault? She is HER daughter... HER responsibility. We all do what we can for this child. She is precious, smart, beautiful...and her own mother disregards her like shes a rag doll. She even told J that she knows she does not give her attention like she should, but shes going to focus on the other 4 bc D5 is too young, and wont know any difference. I beg to differ...I am sure that child can feel it.

I am so close to just filing a suit against her with CPS.